Today, we delve into the uterus, a symbolic and essential organ for human and mammalian reproduction. Fundamentally, the uterus consists of a body, fundus, and cervix, which could be likened to a mouth.
Uterine Biodecoding — Emotional Conflicts that Affect It
The uterus, measuring approximately 7.5 cm in length, 5 cm in width, and 2.5 cm in thickness, is comprised of elastic tissue, enabling it to expand during pregnancy. Its primary function is to house the fertilized egg, facilitating the fetus’s flawless and secure development.
Within the uterus, there is an inner area connecting to the Fallopian tubes and an outer area linking to the vagina. However, the complexity doesn’t end there; the uterus is further subdivided into layers.
Perimetrium
Located at the back upper part of the uterus, what might be called the “upper back of the uterus,” the soft and loose tissue that extends along the sides is referred to as “parametrium.”
Myometrium
This layer is primarily composed of smooth muscle tissue situated inside the uterus. Should it extend outside the uterus and merge with the external tissue, it can lead to a thickening of the uterus itself, a condition known as adenomyosis.
Endometrium
A mucous layer that renews itself with each menstrual cycle in the absence of fertilization. It is the portion of tissue that, if pregnancy does not occur, disintegrates during menstruation.
The Uterus as Home
Memorize this simple and profound phrase, for it will provide us with the key insight into any uterine issue.
THE UTERUS IS HOME. Well, quite straightforward… But, why?
Our brain understands, knows, and acknowledges that the uterus is the sanctuary that will house, shelter, nurture, and protect the new being that will one day come into existence.
“It’s the children’s first home”
The initial home for any child. Our first home. And all conflicts associated with the uterus will always relate to the concept of home.
- What happens in the home
- What’s missing in the home
- What I detest about the home
- What I need from the home
- The home I don’t have
- The home I yearn for
- The home that was taken from me
- The home that was invaded
- The home falling apart
- The home I can’t secure
- The people living in the home
- Those who have left their home
- Those who have arrived at the home
- The dynamics among the home’s occupants
- Etc.
Everything, absolutely everything that relates, both realistically and symbolically, to home, MY HOME.
The unconscious, biological, primal, basic, and archaic brain, across generations of humans and animals, has known that its uterus is “home.” The moment I, as a woman, experience an emotion related to “home,” my brain interprets it as “uterus.”
With this fundamental understanding, we can address any uterine issue, because as soon as we “uncover” what happened with the home or to the home, we will identify the changes needed to heal our uterus.
The Details
Let’s assume I live a very happy life, enjoying everything, and one day, during a doctor’s visit, I’m told there’s an issue with my ENDOMETRIUM.
Whether I’m diagnosed with endometriosis, hyperplasia, or even told I have a prolapse, the specific diagnosis ultimately doesn’t matter. Any emotional conflicts leading to ANY DIAGNOSIS related to my uterus will be connected to my concept of “home.”
When I Exhibit Any Uterine Symptoms
Upon experiencing any uterine symptoms, I must review which of the following emotions, emotional experiences, or situations I have recently encountered or am currently living through at the time of my diagnosis:
- Believing my family is not normal in aspects of family dynamics, reproduction, or sexuality.
- My family deems my behavior as abnormal in the realm of family, reproduction, or sexuality.
- Experiencing sexual abuse, whether by a family member or someone else, unacknowledged abuse within the household, knowing of a family member’s abuse that only I am aware of, being a victim of abuse that must remain hidden within the home, etc.
- Facing issues at home, where family members do not get along, feeling a lack of unity despite a large family, misunderstandings within the household, enduring uncomfortable silences, finding living in this home chaotic or impossible, no longer bearing to live in this home, or finding it unfeasible to stay any longer, etc.
- The loss of a child (through death, abortion, kidnapping, theft, violence, etc.), a mother, a father, or a grandchild.
- Feeling the absence of another child in the home, a daughter, a son, etc.
- Experiencing my child starting school and not being at home anymore.
- Realizing my grandchild has grown and will no longer be under my care or at home.
- Mourning a grandfather who has passed away and will no longer live with us.
All the aforementioned potential experiences, that I as a woman may be suffering or have suffered, can harm my uterus.
- If I, as a woman, harbor any conflict with my sexuality or sexual life, it is most likely that my endometrium will be damaged.
- As a woman experiencing any form of sexual violence, it is almost certain that my cervix will be harmed.
- I am a mature woman who is deeply concerned about my grandchildren or living solely for them, and if anything happens to them or there is a change in our routine, it will directly damage my uterus.
- If I am aware of, or witness within my home, any form of “dirty” or negative sexuality directed towards me or from one family member to another, it will also harm my uterus.
Any Uterine Problem
Any uterine problem presented by a woman, especially those with grandchildren, has a 90% chance of being an emotional conflict related to them:
- I no longer care for my grandchildren, being unable to care for them, or not being trusted to do so.
- My daughter or son no longer allows me to see my grandchildren.
- My child moved away, resulting in less frequent visits from my grandchildren.
- My grandchildren no longer visiting me.
- My grandchild is very ill.
- My grandchild has passed away.
- My grandchild experiencing a serious incident.
- Etc.
Beyond Grandchildren Concerns
It can be stated that, in general, having problems with the endometrium for any woman boils down to two significant variants:
- An emotional issue related to “dirty” sexuality (abuses, rapes, incest, etc.).
- An emotional issue related to broken “family laws,” which could range from “my child is not heterosexual” and this is frowned upon by the family, to “I have married a man of a different race or religion, a musician, a hippie, someone poor (or anything else deemed derogatory by the parents),” and this is disapproved of by the family.
It might involve something that has happened to one of my children that concerns me regarding what the family will say, or it could be that I, as a woman, am experiencing something as a daughter that is not or will not be well received.
I haven’t gotten pregnant and I’m over 35, I haven’t married and I’m over 40, I got pregnant out of wedlock, my boyfriend left me pregnant, I’m in love with someone not accepted by the family, or any other scenario that is not “well seen” by my family.
Returning to the primary conflict of the uterus as “home,” we can add:
- Family rules
- Dirty sexual matters
- Issues with grandchildren, with children, with myself as a mother, or with myself as a daughter within the family.
Always Related to Home
All diagnoses, symptoms, or conditions in our uterus will always be related to home.
To its members, to societal expectations, to what is deemed right or wrong, to what happens with its members, to their sexual problems or fears or sufferings, to the home itself (the physical house), to reproductive life, etc.
The emotional conflicts need not be grave or shocking, but if I, throughout my life, dreamed of marrying my high school boyfriend, and this boy leaves me for my neighbor, I could experience the emotion of:
“He will form another -home-, another household, another family, with another woman that isn’t me,” and that could harm my uterus, especially if my expectations did not include a plan B.
That is, I can harm my uterus simply because I was not more realistic with my dreams and illusions. I might develop uterine polyps or experience heavy bleeding (because all the endometrium that I formed to house my dreams will no longer be necessary).
Do You See How It Works?
What if I got married and started having my children, happy because I’ve fulfilled my biggest dream of “starting a family,” watching my children grow up in a fabulous pink house when suddenly my husband leaves me.
If I experience this as “Oh poor my children, the happy family is broken,” or as “Poor my children, the home I should have given them or promised them didn’t work out,” I will likely harm my uterus.
However, if I had the strength to face reality as it is, and the ability to show my children that we can move forward without issues, then nothing would happen.
Another Example
I experienced the death of my mother, who was a great support and companion to me, and months later, I saw my sister, whom I talk to daily and consider my best friend, move to another country for work.
If I decide to live through this as a victim, if I experience it as “my home is collapsing,” then I will harm my uterus.
There’s More
I have based my whole life, my path, and my preferences on idealizing a future life where at 30, I would already be happily married with two or three children. In reality, I’m 38 and single. Do you see the magnitude of the uterine frustration I carry?
Because I am effectively 8 years late in “forming my home,” and due to, my misguided plans, and my expectations, I could be carrying a uterus full of tumors or even one huge tumor of 8 centimeters.
And like these, hundreds of more possible examples…
Without realizing it, we women place all our dreams and frustrations in the reproductive system, specifically the uterus. Indeed, even the physical house itself can be a reason for harm to the uterus.
If my house is a dream, I’ve decorated it over years, it has taken years of work and details, and then it burns down completely in a fire, there goes my uterus, because without intending to, I “assigned” to my home a symbolic importance it shouldn’t have had.
So, in the face of any uterine problem whatever it may be. Let’s first analyze our reality, our expectations and our current situation at home and with the home. Frustrated sexuality or planned reproduction… because that’s where the key lies.
