Explore how biodecoding reveals the profound effects of parental emotions on children’s early development. Learn methods to identify and manage these deep-seated influences for healthier emotional growth.
Understanding Unconscious Conflicts in Children Through Biodecoding
Diving into the world of biodecoding, a crucial question arises: Do children also experience unconscious conflicts through their illnesses or symptoms? The answer is complex, but essentially, yes, children face their own conflicts, albeit in ways different from adults.
Children’s Emotional Experience and Their Connection with the Mother
From an early age, children have basic needs such as food, sleep and affection. If these needs are not adequately met, they can lead to physical or emotional manifestations. As they grow, their needs and how they express them become more complex.
There is a consensus among various authors about the deep emotional connection between the mother and the child from conception until about 7 years of age. During the first three years, children live in what could be described as an emotional fusion with the mother, fully sharing her emotional field. This means that the emotions of the mother can be intensely experienced by the child, without the child having the ability to differentiate between their own emotions and those of their mother.
The concept of “project sense” in biodecoding is profoundly significant and deserves detailed exploration to fully understand how it influences a child’s early development. Here is a more detailed description:
The Sense Project in Biodecoding: Delving into Its Impact
The sense project begins at the moment of conception. It is at this point that the embryo starts to be exposed to the mother’s emotional vibrations. Throughout pregnancy, every experience of the mother, from her mood swings to her physiological responses to stress or joy, can affect the emotional and physical development of the fetus. This process continues intensely until the child is three years old, a phase in which the child is highly receptive and vulnerable to environmental and emotional influences.
Components of the Sense Project
Mother’s emotions: experienced during pregnancy and the early years of the child’s life —whether they are love, fear, anxiety, happiness, or sadness— are transferred to the child. These emotions can affect how the child perceives the world and how they respond to it from an early age.
Significant events: such as family issues, economic stress, the mother’s social relationships and global or local events can leave an emotional imprint that affects the child’s emotional development.
Parents’ relationship: the dynamics between the parents and their emotional and loving relationship during pregnancy play a crucial role. Conflicts, emotional support, love and acceptance between the parents can influence the child’s emotional security.
Family expectations and beliefs: the clan’s beliefs about the child can start to form a ‘narrative’ that the child may feel compelled to fulfill, even subconsciously.
Long-Term Impact of the Sense Project
The sense project not only establishes the foundation for how children will manage their emotions and relationships throughout their lives, but it can also predispose them to certain physical and emotional health challenges. In biodecoding, it is considered that many of the emotional or physical problems a person faces can have their roots in this formative period.
Understanding how the sense project helps parents and therapists to address not only the symptoms a child may exhibit but also the deep-rooted causes of those symptoms, often related to experiences during this critical period. By doing so, a more effective intervention can be provided that helps the child develop a stronger and healthier emotional foundation for the rest of their life.
This knowledge underscores the importance of an emotionally healthy environment during the early years of life and highlights how the experiences of the parents, especially the mother, are crucial in shaping the person the child will eventually become.
Emotional Sensitivity of Children Up to Seven Years Old
Up to the age of seven, children are extremely sensitive to emotions. Their neocortex, the part of the brain responsible for rational thinking, is still developing, making them particularly receptive to emotional language. They are like emotional sponges, absorbing and reflecting emotions without the filter of rationality.
Symptoms or illnesses in children often reflect emotional conflicts in their environment. For example, a child who suffers from frequent abdominal pains might be manifesting emotional issues of the mother related to situations hard to “digest.” Similarly, conditions like bronchitis or asthma can be indicative of a toxic environment at home.
Thus, children’s illnesses are not only a reflection of their own conflicts but also of the unconscious conflicts of their parents or close environment, making them a faithful and loving mirror of the tensions around them.
Leaving Behind Guilt: Key to Children’s Emotional Health
To foster the health and emotional well-being of our children, it is crucial that as parents we take care of our own emotional health. Recognizing and expressing our emotions, seeking help and talking about our feelings are essential steps. Ignoring our issues will not make them disappear and, in fact, children, with their surprising perception and innocence, notice much more than we think and are ready to continuously reflect it.
Let’s seize the opportunity they provide us to grow and take charge of our own emotions. It is vital to openly express our feelings so that children learn to distinguish what truly belongs to them and begin to name the emotions they feel, detaching from those that are not theirs.
Clan Conflicts: The Expression of Children
Often, the conflicts or illnesses that children manifest can be related to the family clan. Especially in cases where they are born with congenital conditions, these problems usually represent something that transcends their individual experience.
Conducting a study of the family tree can be extremely useful in understanding what the child is trying to repair through their illness, thus allowing us to release both the child and the clan from these inherited emotional burdens.
The influence of the father, although mediated by the mother, is also significant. While children feel and process emotions primarily through their mother, events that affect the father have an indirect but powerful impact. For instance, if the father loses his job and the mother manages the situation with calm and confidence, the child will be less affected. However, if the mother experiences the event with distress, the child will experience and possibly express that distress as their own, often through physical symptoms, being this the most direct way children can communicate unresolved emotional conflicts.
Of course, here is a detailed expansion on the importance of the father’s role in a child’s development:
The Importance of the Father in a Child’s Development
From the ages of 7 to 14, the father figure becomes crucial in the emotional and social development of the child. This stage of life is critical for teaching and understanding boundaries and norms, which are fundamental for healthy development. The father, through his interaction and example, teaches the child about responsibility, the consequences of their actions and the importance of respect towards others.
The father’s role is crucial in helping the child move out of the emotional fusion stage with the mother, which dominates the early years of life. By providing an alternative model of authority and affection, the father helps the child explore new ways of interaction and to understand their own individuality. This transition is vital for the development of the child’s autonomy, allowing them to learn to regulate their own emotions and behaviors in a more effective and mature way.
The Crucial Role of the Father in the Child’s Social and Emotional Development
Furthermore, the father figure significantly impacts the development of social skills in the child. Through interaction with the father, the child learns how to handle social situations, how to establish and maintain relationships and how to behave in various social contexts.
The father, by engaging the child in diverse activities and introducing them to new environments and challenges, promotes the development of coping skills and self-confidence, which are essential for the child’s future well-being and success.
These aspects highlight how the active presence and engagement of the father during these formative years are fundamental not only for the child’s emotional development but also for their social and cognitive growth.
Recognizing the impact of parental emotions and experiences through biodecoding helps shape healthier, more resilient children, laying a strong foundation for their emotional and physical health.
